Divorce

  I was catching up on worldly events this morning, they disclosed that Larry King who is over 70 years old was getting divorced from his wife. I thought to myself how unfortunate. They then went on to say that this was his eighth marriage. It would seem to me that whenever two people who have taken a vow of till death do us part, and they suddenly seek permanent seperation it is extremely sad.  It is thought that in American society, about 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. The actual numbers are probably a little less that that. We read about or see it in the news all the time about celebities who marry and then just can;t quite seem to get the concept that in Gods eyes marriage is supposed to be permenant. Matthew 19: 4-6 says. "Haven't you read?" That at the beginning the creater made male and female, and said, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together let no man seperate."

   I read an article the other day where they were interviewing Will Smith the actor. They asked him what attributed to the success of his marriage to Jada pinket Smith's.  He replied, "In their eyes marriage is permenant." In my opinion Mr. Smith has it right, when we take a vow and profess our love to another human being of the opposite sex it is as the marriage vows say. "Till death do us part."  Having said that and being married for over 26 years myself marriage is a challenge to say the least. Especially when we are young and go into it with all of these preconcieved ideas about what  our commitments are. It can be twice as bad for our mates if as men we go in with some unorthodox views about what it takes to have a successful marriage.  Like for example the law of self preservation I before you, my needs ahead of yours, my love is conditional. So if you can't meet my condition then this is grounds for divorce. When men grow up with improper role models who give unclear signals about what the criteria of being a good husband is this can be a recipe for disaster as well.

  Now having said that, the bible is also clear about when divorce is permissable. Matthew 19: 8-9 says, " Moses permitted you to divorce your wifes because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultry." It is also ok for some to remain unmarried. Marriage is not for everyone. If one chooses to remain unmarried to better serve God this to is permisable. If you have a burning desire to procreate or desire sexual intimacy with someone of the opposite sex, it has to be under the confines of marriage to truly have Gods blessing in your life.

  God has provided men and women with marriage as a means of procreating or having children. He also gave us marriage so that we could enjoy healthy sexual relationships with someone of the opposite sex. Sex is a natural human inclination that God has given us to enjoy. Men's sex drives are more physically driven than their woman counterparts. Womens sex drives are more emotionally driven. But, both of these should be exercised under the confines of a marriage that has Gods blessings.

  In todays society it is not uncommon for young couples to have sex first, even live together for long extended periods of time and then contemplate marriage. The bible instructs us to do just the opposite get married first and then consumate the marriage and have a family. With the kind of God forsaken ideas we have about marriage, it is no wonder our divorce rates are through the roof. Our society needs to reevalute the concepts we have about what it takes to have a healthy relationship with someone of the opposite sex. It should not be driven by fleshy desires but, motivated by our need to be spritual and have a obedient life in step with Gods calling on our life.